No one wants to admit that they're afraid of anything.

But the truth is we as humans are built with the same primitive desires hardwired into us:

Safety and survival.

Which means that anything that could POSSIBLY be a threat to either of them is a big red flag... and unfortunately that's the problem.

When you're afraid of losing resources, making the wrong decisions, believing that there is a "right" way to do things, you live your life very small. You don't take risks. And if you do, they're very calculated and done with such stress that you feel like you're going to die the whole time.

You lose independent thought and personal agency- you start second guessing your decisions, you start feeling insecure, look towards the tribe for council, you seek validation and praise, you desperately crave acceptance to ensure your safety and survival.

AND... you dig your own grave by doing so.

In modern society, all of that primitive hardwiring combined with social conditioning, internalized patriarchy, and comparison breeds perfectionism.

Perfectionism survives on 3 things: comparison, shame, and fear.

The worst part?

When you don't actively work on releasing, removing, and recovering from them, you feed it.

Every self-critical thought and judgement that makes you feel small, unworthy, and unlovable.

Every time you use your trauma as the reason why you're stuck in hatred, pain, anxiety, depression, etc. with no way out.

Every conversation where you default to pessimism, gossip, and complaining.

Every self-deprecating joke you tell so you feel protected from others.

Every true desire, dream, or vision you have yourself that you gaslight yourself out of with, "that's crazy, I could never do it, I'm too f*cked up to do it, that level of success isn't possible for people who look like me"

You become the poison spreading and fester in your body, mind, and spirit

You become your worst enemy

You become your biggest bully with every deprecating joke.

You invite in your most shameful fears

You become driven by your insecurities with every

You become soulless- detaching from the present moment, purposeful fulfillment, and true connection.

You become mindless- unable to have independent thought because you’re so absorbed by the game of more

You become primitive, only focused on survival in the illusion of scarcity, “don’t fall behind or you won’t survive”

It keeps you from living your life and manifests in estranged relationships, constant hustle and burnout, inability to trust, inability to relax or slow down, and robs you of appreciation, success, and joy.

Perfectionism isn’t a joke, or something to be proud of, or something to strive for.

It’s a system of oppression that keeps us in a rat race in superficial goals, instead of realizing our own power and sufficiency.

It’s a painful form of masochism that beats you down for being you.

It’s an abusive relationship that you develop a sort of Stockholm syndrome for in fear of rejection of yourself.

And it’s 100% reprogrammable.

Systems of oppressions require denial to survive.

If you want to cut off perfectionism, experience life to the full extent, without your fears of failures, without the rampage of self-doubt, and without the endless cacophony of self-criticism, you focus on 4 things:

1. The Courage to BE

2. The Audacity to LIVE

3. The Confidence to SUCCEED

4. The Humility to SURRENDER

When you focus on these 4 key principles, you are able to free yourself from the B.S. rules in your head & reject society's efforts to strip away your nuances and box you in.

You stop comparing yourself to others, because you realize you're not in competition with others.

You stop trying so hard to be a better, more perfect, more successful version of you, because you see the truth that you are enough as is.

You stop letting fear stop you from applying for the job, telling people about your business, flirting with the cute boy at the coffee shop, and in general from living your best life, because you've un-shamed yourself and know how to process any emotion that can come up.

You stop stressing so much about every detail of the "how," because you've learned how to let go of anxiety, you are so connected to your intuition, and you trust the process.

You stop beating yourself up for your past, because you realize you were always doing your best, you have so much self-compassion, and you feel so much more motivated to just focus on your future rather than punishing yourself for your past.

You stop over-producing and feeling guilty for not being "productive," because you see your value so clearly and untie your self-worth to what you can do for others, for a company, or even for the world- you allow yourself to blissfully BE.

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